3 Ways to Love Yourself Flaws and All

I’ve always found that it’s easier for me to love and care about other people, and maybe you feel that way too.

It’s one thing to shower praise on someone else, but when it comes to me…eh, not so much.

Some days I worry about the pudginess of my belly. Sometimes I obsess about the nasty things people say about me (one of the pitfalls of putting yourself out there!).

Over the years, I’ve learned a few a few easy ways to stop myself when I start driving down the highway of self-loathing. Don’t bother checking your GPS; it’s only in your mind.

Wanna join me on a detour to Self-Love City? I knew you would. 🙂

Here are 3 super easy ways to increase your self-confidence so you can love yourself flaws and all.

Get Naked!

Bow-chicka-wow-wow! Nah, I’m not talkin’ about getting frisky with your significant other to increase your self-esteem (although that will do it too).

I mean spending a few minutes every day looking at your naked body. This is my #1 trick for body confidence.

I know some women who avoid mirrors at all cost. It’s no surprise that these women also have warped ideas about what their bodies look like.

Take off all your clothes and look at your body in a full-length mirror. Find 3 things you love about your body just as it is. Maybe you love your thick thighs that help you chase after your kids.

Remember when I used to be a nude model? I didn’t have a perfect body either, but being naked every day took away the anxiety about my flaws.

Surround Yourself With Superheroes!

It sucks big time when the people around you say hurtful things about who you are, what you look like, or how you live your life.

And as much as we like to think we can rise above the haters, the truth is that other people’s opinions really CAN affect you.

An awesome way to boost your self-confidence is to surround yourself with superheroes—people who love you so much and tell you how kick-ass you are.

Here’s another quick tip: it’s your life, so feel free to delete any mean comments about you on social media. I do it all the time because I don’t want my readers to see that junk either.

Choose Meaningful Work!

Your job can crush your self-confidence too if you let it. Long hours, a killer commute, coworker drama—who needs that?

The best way to have a job that builds you up instead of cutting you down is to choose meaningful work.

This means something different for everyone. It doesn’t matter if you’re a barista, writer, attorney, mommy, entrepreneur, or Batman. You’ll feel better about yourself if you believe that your work has meaning and value in the world.

Is your job making the world a better place? Focus on the contribution you’re making through your profession, and you’ll fill yourself up with good vibes.

This post focuses on Step 5 of the Life Editing Process, Make White Space for Personal Self-Care. For more about life editing and what it can do for you, click here.

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  1. Wanda on May 26, 2015 at 7:34 am

    Hahaha! I just love you. Can’t wait until I can take your courses! 😀

  2. Marie-France on November 20, 2014 at 5:03 pm

    Great article Sage!

    Some ways I like to practice self-love are spending some time with ME! It could be doing anything…watching a good Disney movie solo, curled up on the couch. Reading a good book or going for a walk and thinking about all the things I am grateful for.

    Learning to enjoy your own company is crucial to feeling good about and totally loving yourself.