Here’s an interesting factoid: I used to be left-handed.
I say “used to be” because when I was in kindergarten, the teachers made me and the other lefties use our right hands for tasks like writing, drawing, and using scissors. I was forced to be right-handed.
Before you call the ACLU, let me say that this was nearly 25 years ago. The teachers weren’t mean-spirited or making me use my right hand because they thought left-handed people were inferior. They were trying to protect me from a world where lefties are at a disadvantage.
And I didn’t think to question it.
As I got older, I noticed kids who were allowed to stay left-handed, and I felt bad when they struggled with right-handed spiral notebooks or tried to do their work while sitting in right-handed desks (you know, the ones with the extra desk part on the right side to support your arm).
Other ex-lefties in my class became full-on righties, while I became ambidextrous. I write clearly with both hands (see my handwriting here). My left arm can throw a ball straighter and with more accuracy, and my right arm is stronger and more powerful.
I don’t think many parents would approve of teachers making their students be right-handed nowadays. After all, our president is left-handed. I can see both sides of the argument, and I wanted to ask you readers:
In your life, do you make do or make adjustments?
You make do when you accept things as they are and do the best you can in a situation. That might mean that things are more difficult for you, but hey, that’s life.
You make adjustments when you don’t accept things as they are and demand changes (or make your own changes) to make situations easier for you.
Situations Where I Make Do
- At restaurants. I’m a vegan, and usually there’s something I can eat at any restaurant, even if it’s just a salad. In the rare instances when there’s nothing for me to eat, I sip my iced tea and enjoy the company I’m with (isn’t that what going out is about?). I always eat ahead of time for this very reason.
- With my dog. Skyla’s a former stray with a broken leg and abandonment issues. I don’t need an award-winning purebred dog.
Situations Where I Make Adjustments
- At home. I’m very short, so I had Chris install clothing rods in our closet at my height so I don’t have to stand on my tip toes to reach the hangers.
- With my clothes. I’m not going to shuffle along in too-long pants just because they were like that when I pulled them off the rack. I’ll take my clothes to my tailor to get that “just right” fit.
- When voting. I’m not content to let others make decisions for me when it comes to causes I feel strongly about. If I’m not happy, I use my voice, money, and vote to support those who can make adjustments.
What do you do more often: make do or make adjustments?
When do you go with the flow, and when do you rock the boat?