How many decisions do you make in a day? A dozen? A hundred? A thousand? There are so many little things to consider:
- Should I get up now or hit the snooze button again?
- Should I pack a healthy lunch or grab something at the sandwich shop?
- Does the weather seem nice enough for a skirt or should I play it safe with jeans?
On the flip side, how many tough decisions do you avoid making every day? You know, the ones that actually matter:
- Should we buy a house or continue renting?
- Should I remain in this bad relationship or get out and start over again?
- Should I move across the country or stay in my familiar home town?
Small decisions might not have a big effect on your life; you can always eat a salad tomorrow. But it’s those big decisions that can have lasting implications; moving across the country changes everything.
Not surprisingly, when you need to make a tough decision, it seems like everyone has an opinion about what you should do. How are you supposed to sort through all those opposing viewpoints?
Here’s the obvious solution: you have to trust your intuition. That little voice inside you knows the correct decision, but you have to be able to hear it.
If your family is saying one thing and your partner is saying another…if your friends are asking you to choose sides…if your lists of pros and cons are of equal length…then how in the world are you supposed to follow your heart? There are too many distractions!
I’ve got a trick that works for me every time. I mentally flip a coin.
Picture a coin in your mind.
Choice A is heads.
Choice B is tails.
Now, imagine flipping the coin in the air…it’s spinning…spinning…aaaaannndd…it’s heads! Choice A wins!!!
Immediately—before you take your next breath—determine how you’re feeling.
Does your chest open up? Do you feel lighter and hopeful? Are you thinking, “Thank goodness it’s Choice A.”
Does your stomach drop? Does a sense of dread settle onto your shoulders? Are you thinking, “Oh crap, now I have to do Choice A.”
That’s your answer! Not Choice A per se, but the feeling you get from Choice A. If you feel great, then Choice A is the right decision. If you feel awful, then don’t you dare take Choice A no matter who is pressuring you to do so!
Mentally flipping a coin can help you tap into your intuition (or gut feeling) when you’re too overwhelmed to feel it on your own.
Trust yourself. You know what you should do. You’ve always known.
Want more help when making tough decisions? Check out these articles:
Avoiding “Decision Quicksand”
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