Sorry, folks! This isn’t a sex post. 🙂
One of my favorite books is The Happiness Project, and I’m sure many of you have read it too.
Author Gretchen Rubin says that when it comes to life’s indulgences, people tend to be either moderators or abstainers. Here are the definitions from her blog:
You’re a moderator if you
- find that an occasional indulgence heightens your pleasure—and strengthens your resolve
- get panicky at the thought of “never” getting or doing something
You’re an abstainer if you
- have trouble stopping something once you’ve started
- aren’t tempted by things that you’ve decided are off-limits
And here’s a quick video about how being an abstainer guides her life.
I completely relate to this idea, and I’m convinced that I’m an abstainer at heart. I get better results when I avoid unhealthy indulgences rather than giving myself some leeway.
Ruffles potato chips and chocolate soy ice cream are my weaknesses…evil food villains, you might say. I’m helpless when I buy a bag of chips or a bucket of chocolaty goodness. I’ll eat the entire bag/container in a single night. Maybe I’d have better luck if I’d ask myself this question, but it’s best not to invite these characters into my house at all.
It’s easier for me to abstain from these treats than to try (unsuccessfully) to moderate myself.
If you’re a regular reader, you might be wondering why I haven’t mentioned Twizzlers.
I won’t include Twizzlers in this discussion because I don’t consider them “food” per se. They are a gift from God.
Being an abstainer or moderator isn’t limited to just what you eat. It applies to any kind of questionable indulgence like watching too much TV, compulsively shopping online, or picking at your pimples. Of course, I never do those things….
A part of me wishes I could be a moderator. It feels more balanced and less anal. But I guess there’s some value in knowing yourself, and I know myself well enough to abstain.
How do you manage not-so-good indulgences in your life?
Are you an abstainer or a moderator?