You Are a Leader (Yes, You!)

Are you a leader?

Like most of us, you probably said no. You’re not some big shot at your company, you’re not in a lab finding cures for diseases, and you’re not leading an army into battle.

We tend to focus on the traditional definition of leader: a man in a suit standing at a podium lecturing us about his big ideas.

But that’s such a limited view. Could a leader be something else?

Could you be a leader…and not know it?

Being a leader doesn’t mean that you’re changing the world. It might mean that you’re changing just one person’s life.

I love this video of Drew Dudley’s TEDx talk on “Leading with Lollipops.” He describes an incident that changed a young woman’s life, and it was all because of his influence.

Please, please, do yourself a favor and watch it. This is powerful stuff.

You would be shocked if you knew how you are affecting the people around you right now.

Consider the way you treat

  • Your family, kids, and partner
  • Your friends and frenemies
  • Your boss, coworkers, and interns
  • Waiters, janitors, bus drivers, and other service workers
  • Strangers on the street

You may not even remember the biggest impact you’ve had on someone. But they’ll remember. That’s what being a leader is about.

I challenge you to tell the people who have made your life better that they have influenced you.

I challenge you to expect that you are a leader every day, in every moment.

You have value.

You are important.

You are a leader.

How do you lead in your everyday life?

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  1. Tinfoil Tiaras on May 22, 2012 at 7:16 pm

    He went to Mount A- that’s in the province over from where I grew up! I’ve been told by a few of my social work clients that I gave them a lollipop moment and it means a lot- why not tell people how important they are to us! I love this post Sage and yes, we define leadership as arrogant but I am proud to say I’m a little leader in my small way!

  2. Shybiker on May 21, 2012 at 7:22 pm

    That’s nice. All of us influence others and that’s leadership. I know my example has emboldened others ’cause they told me so. It’s a good by-product of living right.

  3. xvavaveganx on May 21, 2012 at 4:26 pm

    Aww I love this post Sage! You are right, we all impact each other in different ways and never know it. I love the idea of telling people how they’ve influenced me and made a positive impact on my life. You have made a positive impact on my life with these amazing posts that inspire me to be a happier person and the woman that I am meant to be 🙂