I bet you’re wishing you hadn’t stumbled upon my blog, but it’s too late to save yourself.
No, no—don’t try to bribe me. I’ve made up my mind, and I’m going to tell everyone your deep, dark secret.
It’s better this way.
You can’t hide forever.
It was only a matter of time before everyone found out.
Your secret is…
YOU’RE A BIG FAKE!
That’s right, a complete phony. I don’t even need to know exactly what you’re hiding, but I know you’re not being completely truthful.
But don’t feel too bad that I exposed your secret. Here’s the thing: Everyone else is hiding a part of themselves too!
Sometimes it’s hard to be our authentic selves because we worry about what others would think or we don’t want to hurt people’s feelings.
How can you tell if you’re being fake?
- You worry about what would happen if your friends ever met each other because you don’t act the same around different groups of people.
- Your boyfriend thinks you’re 5 years younger than you really are.
- You pretend to be something you’re not just to please other people.
- Your house is full of gifts you received like ugly sweaters, unread books, and bizarre art that you feel like you can’t give away or throw out even though you hate it.
- You forget which lie you told to which person.
- Your parents think you share the same religious beliefs/political leanings, but you actually don’t.
- You always feel like you have to be “on” and you feel drained after interacting with large groups of people.
How can you tell if you’re being your true self?
- You are relaxed around many different types of people and you can’t wait to introduce your friends to each other.
- You stand up for what you believe in even if you are standing alone.
- You spend much of your free time doing activities that you love.
- You only bring things/people into your life that build you up, not cut you down.
- Your home and your lifestyle reflect who you really are.
Let’s encourage others to be truthful with us by being truthful with them.
Tell your coworker that you don’t agree with her point of view.
Admit that you dye your hair (it looks fabulous, by the way).
Fess up that you’re the one who ate all the lasagna and not a bunch of raccoons who broke into the apartment late at night.
Tell someone that you love them, regardless of whether you think they feel the same way.
I don’t expect you to become completely truthful all the time (“why yes, that dress DOES make you look fat!”), but we could all stand to honor our true selves more often.
What secret are you hiding? When do you feel most truthful?