Christmas is just a few days away, and I’m so excited about the presents Chris will give me—especially because I already know what they will be.
I’m no psychic. Chris and I use a simple concept to be sure we both get what our hearts desire at every gift-giving occasion: the wish list.
That was sound of some of my more traditional readers fainting and hitting the floor. Why on Earth would 2 grown adults resort to giving each other wish lists like a couple of pushy 8-year-olds? Isn’t that tacky…and, well…greedy?
Hear me out. Most people stop writing wish lists to Santa (or Mom and Dad) by the time they’re old enough to have jobs. But people expect kids to make wish lists. Does anyone else remember circling all the cool toys in the Toys R Us catalog? Ah, memories….
Chris and I use wish lists as adults to make our lives easier. We love each other very much, but when you’ve been with someone for more than a decade, you start to run out of new ideas. Also, people change and their tastes evolve, so a gift that might have been perfect 5 years ago might not thrill them today.
But doesn’t a wish list take all the fun out of gift-giving? Well, yes and no.
Here’s a quick run-down of the pros and cons of using wish lists:
Pro: Why Wish Lists Are Awesome
- You get what you really want. You’ll get the book that YOU want to read, not the one Aunt Millie thinks you should read.
- They make it easier on your loved ones. They probably have a dozen or more people to buy gifts for, so the least you could do is give them one less thing to worry about.
- Your emotions are real when you tear off the wrapping paper. It’s the difference between “It’s perfect! Thanks so much!” and “Oh, more tube socks….you shouldn’t have, Grandma.”
Con: Why Wish Lists Ruin the Holidays
- You won’t get as many surprises. Where’s the fun in unwrapping a present when you already know what it is? Why bother wrapping gifts at all—just keep it in the plastic bag it came in and call it a day!
- Your loved ones may think you’re gift-grubbing. A wish list is presumptuous. No one owes you a gift, and with the economy the way it is these days, your family might not be able to afford that big screen TV or other extravagant items on your list.
- ‘Tis better to give than to receive. Perhaps you should spend Christmas volunteering at the local homeless shelter, you ungrateful wretch.
I’m definitely on the “pro” side of this argument. I can’t keep up with the latest Xbox games, so I’d rather Chris just tell me which game he wants. And I know Chris is relieved to not have to read my mind.
What’s your take? Do you use wish lists?