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Whenever I begin working with a new client, I’ll start at the same place.
I’ll take a deep breath and then say in my best “Doctor Sage” voice, “Tell me what hurts.”
Some people are a little taken aback that I go to that dark place first thing during a call, but let’s be completely honest here…
No one contacts a life coach when everything’s going well.
And I wish people would! I’d be able to give them strategies for holding on to those good feelings all the time.
People reach out to me when they are most definitely hurting—maybe she just got fired, she’s going through a divorce, she has no direction anymore, or she’s about to close the businesses that used to fill her heart with meaning.
When I say, “Tell me what hurts,” I see a noticeable relief wash over them, like they are finally able to breathe after months of holding their breath. They were just waiting for someone to care enough to ask.
And on several occasions, they simply begin to cry.
If I could hand them some Kleenex through my laptop monitor, I would. But it’s enough that I’m there to witness their pain.
[Tweet ““To hurt is as human as to breathe.” JK Rowling”]
Have you ever seen someone who you knew was struggling? How powerful would it be if instead of asking, “Are you OK?” (which could make them feel like a burden or ashamed) you say, “Tell me what hurts”?
In my life, it would have meant so much if someone had acknowledged my pain instead of trying to get me to cheer up.
Life editing is about looking our hurts square in the face. Step 2 of the Life Editing Process involves deleting all the people, situations, and things that cause us pain.
You have to figure out why you’re hurting and make the appropriate changes before you can add new things to your life that can make you feel better.
[Tweet ““But better to get hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie.” Khaled Hosseini”]
Sometimes hurting is less like an aching feeling and more like a constant numbness.
It’s easier to numb our hurting in the winter months when everyone seems to be suffering from a little seasonal affective disorder (SAD).
But it’s even worse to be hurting in the summer when the sun is shining and people are laughing and talking about fun vacation plans.
It’s enough to make you want to shove all those cheery people into the pool.
I don’t just focus on the pain during my client calls. After we get through the tough stuff, we talk about that person’s hopes and dreams for the future. I let her get really detailed about what her ideal life would be like. No limits!
And what about you?
What Do You Want This Summer?
- To get a new job…where you actually get paid what you’re worth!
- To start your own business…and say goodbye to the corporate world!
- To take care of your mind, body, and spirit…and finally put yourself first!
- To make a plan to reach your ginormous goal…and start living your dream!
- To get rid of your emotional and physical clutter…and edit your life in the best possible way!
I’ve got a special freebie for you to hone in on what’s hurting and make a doable strategy to get what you really want out of life.
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How the Summer Strategy Call Works and What You Get
- A 60-minute one-on-one strategy call with me though Skype, Google Hangouts, or by phone. Your choice.
- Choose your most urgent problem or messy situation that you want to focus on this summer and come to the call prepared to make big changes.
- We’ll work through the 5-step Life Editing Process for your issue.
- You’ll come away with doable strategies to delete, add, and rearrange the parts of your life into a perfect flow. Then you’ll be all set to have a super, sassy summer!
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[Tweet “Tell me what hurts.”]
What do you want for yourself this summer?
In the comments below, tell me what hurts.
This post focuses on Step 2 of the Life Editing Process, Delete Bad Influences. For more about life editing and what it can do for you, click here.