As my business grows, I’ve noticed something else that’s been growing.
No—not my inflated ego!
I’m talking about the number of haters, trolls, and other unpleasant people who seem obsessed with undermining my success.
Recently, I found out that an acquaintance had been badmouthing me to other people and saying my business practices are “unprofessional.” Sadly, I thought this person was kind and supportive of me.
The comment really stung, especially because I didn’t expect this person to be critical. I’m still feeling a bit hurt because while I don’t present myself like a humorless business women, I believe my business practices are professional.
Have you ever met a hater in your life? Do you know someone who never thinks you’re good enough?
Instead of wallowing in self-pity, or worse, lashing out at the person, mull over the following truths about haters.
Remember That Haters are Cowards
Ah, the internet. It’s essential to my online business, and it provides me with endless amounts of funny cat videos.
But the internet also makes it incredibly easy for haters to post anonymous hateful comments. These trolls often like to post obnoxious comments just to stir the pot and get a rise out of people.
Haters can hide like cowards online, but they can also act cowardly in real life. The person who was talking smack about my business was telling everyone else what she didn’t like, but she never talked to me directly.
Some people talk big when the person they’re criticizing isn’t around to defend herself. It’s a shameful way to act. If you have an opinion, go ahead and own it instead of hiding.
I adore Gabrielle Bernstein’s video about responding to criticism. There’s always something you can learn from an unpleasant situation (ie, to be more loving). Sending the hater peace and love helps you stay true to your values and not sink to their level.
Consider the Source
Sometimes the person judging you actually knows what they’re talking about and might want to help you improve. If that’s the case, you can take in the information and decide for yourself whether you want to act on it. I often appreciate constructive criticism from other coaches.
But there will always be those people who don’t have a clue what they’re talking about. They’re not in your industry, they don’t understand the systems you’re using, or they’re just the type who has to share their 2 cents about everything.
The person who criticized my business doesn’t fall into my ideal customer vision. She’s not the kind of person who would ever hire a coach or therapist, and her method of handling challenges wouldn’t sync up well with my coaching style (these are things I normally look out for during my Ready, Set, Go! calls).
Not only that, but she has never started her own business. Isn’t that always how it is? Someone who has never done what we’re doing is often the most critical. If the source of the hate doesn’t matter, then the comment doesn’t matter either.
Get Back to Work
You’ve heard the saying that living well is the best revenge. It’s true—the quickest way to get over a hateful remark is to keep doing what you’re doing and prove them wrong.
So what if they don’t understand why you dyed your hair purple? Get out there and rock it!
So what if they think you’re a loser? Celebrate the fact that you’re a stronger person for facing adversity instead of coasting through life without any challenges!
And to those of you who don’t understand me and my so-called “unprofessional” ways? I’d love to chat, but I’m too busy helping women find out how truly sweet their lives can be!
Get back to work, do your thing, and go for it! The haters want you to slow down, doubt yourself, and give up.
Don’t do it. Don’t let them win.
You are special. You have value. And I believe in you.
“Haters are confused admirers who can’t understand why everybody else likes you.” Paulo Coelho. Tweet this!
How do you deal with haters?
In the comments below, share a time when you received negative feedback and how you handled it.